From the Northern Cape in South Africa. A very straight road that just keeps going into the distance, with rolling hills in the background.

Author: DiscardedHusband

  • Goodbye ethnicity filter!

    Goodbye ethnicity filter!

    Grindr has long since removed the Ethnicity Filter from its app. Still, every day there are a handful of users who are still looking for it. The search log for this article includes “grindr bring back ethnicity filter”,  ” dating apps that filter ethnicity” and even the somewhat questionable search term “race filter grindr”.  The Ethnicity…

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  • My Regrets. My learning. Hope.

    My Regrets. My learning. Hope.

    I married what I believe was a narcissist who had led a double life seeing another man behind my back for years. One day he just discarded me. That was five years ago and now I want to share what I learned along the way.  Lwanda and I in happier times. San Francisco, April 2017.…

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  • Help! I’m co-dependent!

    Help! I’m co-dependent!

    The 1999 film (now famously starring Ru Paul) “But I’m a cheerleader” portrays a girl who is your average All-American cheerleader – but also happens to like girls. “I get good grades, I go to church – I’m a cheerleader!” the main character Megan exclaims. However, following the  discovery she does in fact like girls…

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